Why your online personal ad is failing

I have been looking at online dating sites. Me personally? I need it to be organic. I have been catfished and the things that attract me to someone isn’t always tangible.

1. The photo(s): You do realize that the only thing that will get someone to “click” on your ad, is your photo right? Why do men wear a hat and sunglasses in all their pictures? Women are going to judge you by the shades, the hat, and label you as Blue Collar Joe. You might be a head of a fortune 500 company but this is what she/he sees. Have at least one good headshot. Make sure it’s clear, captures some personality and add one with a smile. There are a lot of people who are attracted by teeth/smiles.
2. Friends: I was scanning through Tinder, and when I would look at the profiles that caught my attention, I did’t know which one was the person placing the ad. Furthermore, if your friend is more attractive, you blew your own chance. The truth is women are just as visual as men, but will overlook something more often than men. This is an ad so the only thing that you can be judged on is what you post. If you are flexing in the gym, that reads arrogant or gym obsessed. Women take ridiculous photos, but were helping the fellas here.
3. Fish: How many women have given you a compliment on the photo with the fish you’re holding with the upmost pride? There’s a reason women don’t find that attractive, plus there’s a category who will see you as cruel for “hurting the wittle fishy” so your bros may be impressed and you are rightfully proud but, this is dating not sports centre.
4. About: The “about” is your chance to sell yourself and eliminate your ideal partner. If you put “just ask” or “hmu” you may get responses but you aren’t going to get a high caliber person because anyone who is putting themselves out there, wants to know something about the person they are interested in. Besides, why force people to ask you something that you can offer which will help make conversation. Ask just reads, I’m lazy, I am not invested and this is just for sh*ts and giggles. Also, put what you AREN’T looking for. People may get a wee bit butthurt because you like tall, thin, athletic women, but it’s not wasting their time. If you don’t clarify it, you expose yourself to a cattle call.
5. Disclaimers: I have seen a few ads where the men put, “If I don’t reply it’s because I’m not interested or don’t think we would be a good match.” That’s not rude, it’s better than wondering why you don’t hear from them.

I think it’s best to stop at five, but what I recommended to my neighbor was to look at the ads of the other men, see what they put, and find out what makes them stand apart. It doesn’t have to be interesting, this is just like a handshake to a woman in public, you aren’t asking to marry her, you may not even want to talk further than the introduction, but there are so many damn single people but you guys aren’t doing anything. Why?

There are people who are single and seeking what you have to offer but you are sitting alone and not putting yourself out there. You have something to offer. Even if you live in your mum’s basement, there is a girl/boy who will accept you as you are, but if you aren’t giving them something to work with or you’re posting photos that look more like mugshots than of course you can’t expect results. Get up, clean up, take a few photos, write about yourself as if you are applying to some program, then think about your ideal person, and be honest. We’ll talk about how and what to do, but the winks, pokes, and smiles are creepy.