I’m hearing a theme among many people seeking executive coaching. There is a theme among people losing their form of employment. “You’re not a good fit…” which is just a bad reason. In addition, when someone is not a “good fit” you are saying something about them is wrong, but there is no clear reason. Good fit for what?
If they were told what they needed to work on, they can modify the situation. The bottom line is the employer is too much of a coward to say they have a problem with the person and they would rather start the process of recruiting, selection, training and on-boarding another employee in hopes to find a “better fit.”
Most employers don’t take the time to find the right fit in the hiring process. As I have said before, the lack of time in reviewing applications, or relying on keywords to narrow down the pool of candidates, the canned interviews is a formula for selecting a car, not an employee.
“Not a good fit” is the politically correct way to say we don’t want you here. It says nothing of one’s performance, unless it’s how some employers tell people that their not catching on quickly.
In the employer’s defense, no they don’t need to give a reason in an at-will position. The problem is that no one learns. I have said in many a conflict resolution lectures, people can’t fix what they don’t know. If you are in a relationship and suddenly your partner calls it quits without a reason. Quite naturally you’re going to wonder what went wrong. How did I fail? What did I do? At least with the “it’s not you it’s me” the person takes the responsibility of saying they aren’t happy.
Fortunately, there are things like Glassdoor and find out unbiased information and ask questions. It’s the Yelp for job hunters. Some employers read the statements; whether they make changes is unknown.
I don’t know if it’s old school, employment/labor laws and regulations that prevent honest disclosure but even if a person is doing a poor performance, let them know. If they work too slow, and you don’t point it out, they will go through the whole hiring process again and find they are eventually let go. That sucks for the employee as well as the potential employer by wasting their time. It’s expensive to hire and fire someone, but if you are going to hire someone, invest in them. It takes time to “fit in” anywhere that is new. Job, skill, routine, etc. all take time until it feels comfortable and confidence sets in. People are so afraid to not pass probation that they are robots the first year or two just to keep their job.
Employers want the best candidate, but they don’t give interviewees an opportunity to sell their soft skills along with their ability to do the job. Soft skills can’t be trained, it’s worth it to get people who have the ability to work well with peers and a willingness to learn. When you get the person with the skills you are seeking, but don’t have the soft skills, you can destroy your whole division. *listen close* You can’t train soft skills! I have done the train the trainer, and it’s rubbish. People are who they are and that’s fine, not everyone is easy to work with. But how will their personality fit in with the company’s current mood? There is a place for everyone, but when employers hire, they are trying to get the perfect person that they have in their mind or something close.
If you lose a position, due to the “you can’t sit with us” mentality, good! They aren’t a good fit for you. Would you want to work 40 or more hours a day around people who are trying to make you into who they want you to be? We’re adults, we want to do our job, provide for ourselves/family and have autonomy. Likeability is fluid. Remember, not every rejection is a reflection. Sometimes people show you their insecurities in other ways…